Saturday, April 21, 2012

April A to Z Challenge: S

S = Strength

Strength.  This is a word that made my stomach turn when I first became a single mom.  I had so many friends who told me that they weren't worried about me or that they knew I'd be okay because I am "stronger than I realize".  Literally, I got told that so many times that it came to a point where I was concerned I would fly into a homicidal rage toward the next person who said it.  You know what?  It was true!  I really am stronger than I initially realized.  I'm also more resourceful than I knew I was.  By feeling more secure in my ability to meet mine and my son's needs without having to rely on a significant other, I feel like I'm a stronger person.  I feel more capable and that makes me more independent.  I am also aware of the fact that I pull strength from my friends and family.  Initially, I felt that by allowing my friends and family to help support me through these tough times, that it somehow only lent me artificial strength.  I was under the false impression that in order to have real strength, I needed to somehow bear the burden on my own.  This could not be any further from the truth.  Any strength that you gain from any positive source (i.e. "liquid courage", a.k.a. alcohol, is not a positive source of strength!) is still strength. 

What are your sources of strength?  How have you found strength during tough times?

6 comments:

  1. i have mostly found my strength directly from God--sometimes He uses others to show that strength but sometimes people will completely fail you--maybe so you can totally depend on Him

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  2. I've realized I'm a lot stronger and independent that I thought before but these days the source of my courage are my two beautiful girls and my husband. I feel that if we are together, we can conquer the world, and that's an awesome feeling. =)

    From Diary of a Writer in Progress

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  3. I feel for you. When my husband left me and moved in with my best friend, I was devestated. He was in the throse of a nervous breakdown and thought her support was better than mine. But rather than crumple, I got a job as a nanny while I decided my future. With grown-up children, I was free. Eventually, I moved countries and found a good nanny job, travelled the world with my family and finally married in my new country. My strength came from my determination not to wasts the life I'd begun. Your child needs a strong mother. And you're the one to fill the role. Blog on!

    Http://francene-wordstitcher.blogspot.com

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  4. Yes yes and yes. I was a single mom and then I lost custody (don't ask, it was a long time ago). I have found strength many many times in my life that I didn't know I had. Good for you.
    Karen

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  5. I was a single mom for a while, and I don't know how I would have gotten through it without the support of my family. I'd have found a way, I'm sure, but it wouldn't have been pretty.

    ~ Rhonda Parrish

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  6. Ive found my strength in God and His promises found in The Bible. He wants us to depend on Him, because He loves us and knows what's best! Only one more day of the Challenge..
    Http://4ambassadorsofchrist.blogspot.com

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